Find out what you want in life, and learn how to ask for it.

I am working on making a more “official” blog, so stay tuned for the launch this week! My sweet friend from across the country, Jessica Gatlyn is helping me re-design my website on blogspot…can’t wait to share it with you all!

The past week has been a whirlwind of emotions, but life seems to send me in spirals continually, so I shouldn’t be surprised! Lately, my days are filled with productivity and it feels so great to be actively pursuing things I want. I have been learning about living a proactive lifestyle. No, not the acne medicine! ;) 

A proactive lifestyle demands your attention! It requires you to claim who you are, and spend your days being just that. Every Thursday I meet my friend Becky Johnson for iced coffee and lunch at the Jesus Culture offices.


The topic of discussion inspired me to write this very blog. Becky had a desire to be involved in ministry with Jesus Culture, and 3 years later she’s an employee! She volunteered at events, interned under one of the leaders, and kept pursuing something her heart wanted. Learning how to ask for what you want is hard. It’s easy to write christmas lists for your parents or friends, and normally you get exactly what you asked for. It’s also easy to journal to God asking Him to make things happen. The hard part is asking people around you to help catapult things in motion! Sometimes, all it takes is learning how to ask a friend or leader for help and they will probably surprise you. It all comes down to courage, faith, and confidence in who you are. 

Last week I found out that I got accepted into a Pilates Certification School in New York! Want to know how that happened?? I asked my friends and family for help and support, and now I’m on the fast track to teaching classes here in Redding! 

My incredibly wise dad is a Pastor at Harvest Rock Church in Pasadena, CA. Growing up he always encouraged me to go after what I wanted and take nothing less than the best. He taught me how to be a princess, and see myself as a princess as well. There is a difference once you realize who you are. One of the most inspiring things he ever said to me still resonates in my thoughts daily! I plan to use this simple reminder in my daughters life as well. 

Why would you eat crumbs off of the floor, when you can sit at the Master’s table and eat the feast?

It’s so simple, yet entirely profound! I can’t settle for anything less than the best because it’s obviously right there in front of me! Even if what’s already been promised as yours isn’t in your hands yet, approach life like it is! Put a spring in your step and a smile on your face :)


I love fitness. I love working out and feeling my muscles tremble from exhaustion. Call me crazy, but nothing gets my day off to a better start than a good exercise session! I started working out 2 weeks after I gave birth to Ella, lost all the weight in 2 months, and regained my EXACT body type in 3 months. My stomach looks exactly same as before I got pregnant, if not better! I decided to work out, and I saw the change it created. I continue to exercise now because of the health benefits and the energy I feel! I normally work out 6 days a week, for about 1hr. Whether it’s cardio or pilates, I enjoy it all the same! Just last week I ran for 52min straight, just to see if I could :) I don’t have any way of tracking how many miles it turned into, but I’m guessing about 5miles. For me, that was HUGE. That was the absolute longest and fastest I had ever ran for, and it was a blast. It’s not very fast for some people, but I hate running normally so it was a big accomplishment. Try it out! It’s super invigorating. My friend Kathrine Kunde is a great inspiration to me for fitness and wellness. Check out her blog here!image

My life is a series of decisions, and none of which I regret. When we proactively decide on an action, the result is bound to happen. As I explained above, I decided I wanted my exact body back so I made it happen. I enjoyed the entire process! Sure, it was hard work, but I don’t regret it at all. I decided this morning that I was going to get the laundry done, and I made it happen. I remember being very afraid of decisions, because it inevitably will make a change occur. I was scared of my decision to move to Redding, CA…I left my family, my friends and essentially my entire life. Looking back on it now, it was one of the hardest choices I ever made, but it was so worth the result. I gained my perfect husband and my perfect daughter in a perfect city that makes me feel alive! I had no idea what would happen and I was potentially making the worst choice possible. Thankfully, it turned out to be the most vital point in shaping my future. I made lots of bad choices in the process, some of which wounded my family deeply. However, I consider it all to be a learning process. I chose the most incredible outcome, but lost a lot in the interim. My family lives in Los Angeles still, and planning time to see them can be so difficult. Ella gets to see them once a month, and that’s heartbreaking. I’m trusting that one day, that will change. 


Hello friends, welcome to my life.

I invite you to walk into my life! I think that blogs should be vulnerable and honest, so if you’re looking for the real dirt on Alyssa Quilala, here it is! I decided to start a blog because I have a massive desire to write a book one day, hopefully sooner than later. Although, I haven’t decided what I want to write it about. So for now, this blog will be a mash up of my thoughts, ideas, opinions, and experiences. If all goes as planned I will potentially have a subject for my book soon! 

For those of you who aren’t involved in my daily life, here’s a quick run through of what’s going on with me! 

I’m 21. I grew up in Los Angeles, CA with my gorgeous sister Carly, raised by my amazing parents Dante and Darlene. I got married July 12th, 2009 to my perfect husband Chris Quilala. I bought a house with Chris on April 29th, 2010. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter Ella Amarise on May 7th, 2010. I have the most faithful and encouraging friends. My life is all around awesome.

This past week I got to meet up for coffee with my friend and spiritual covering Erica G. She finally got to meet my little Ella Q :)image

I have a HUGE value in my life for relationships, and I am constantly learning how to cultivate them. It’s so easy to let my days, weeks and months go by without connecting with the people I love. Erica has always been able to really see me and when I spend time with her she draws out the gold in me. I learn so much from her! Sadly, she lives 8 hrs away! Some points from our uplifting coffee date include:

1. Serve! Whether it’s your job, your friendships or your family…serve, serve, serve! When I feel disconnected or far away from something/someone that I value, I find relationship in giving.

2. Pray! I have never said a prayer in my entire life without tears springing to my eyes. There is so much that happens in a single prayer that is bigger than the words spoken…whether you see the result of what you’re praying for or not. The main reason why I pray is because of my heart. It makes me feel alive in who I am and draws out the deepest parts of my being. I learn so much about myself in prayer all because I’m learning about God. If I know who He is, I know who I am. Simplicity.

3. Invest! When you take time to invest in something that you care about, your identity will spark and thrive. Find out what your passionate about and fight for it! It’s so easy as a busy wife and mother to forget about things that are important to me. If there is one thing I’ve learned from being a mom it’s that MY TIME MATTERS! It’s ok to be “selfish” and want things for yourself. The truth is, it’s not selfish at all. When you value yourself, you can better value your husband, your children and people close to you. For me, I’m investing my time into Pilates. I want to be a Pilates Instructor and my goal is to be certified by April :)

Here’s to the beginning of something great! I’m off to bed.

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